Our aesthetic is oriented to the beauty of the male body. We enjoy sharing film and fiction expressing diversity of male sexuality. We see the archetypal male hunting instinct as a basic and irrevocable right and as a constant delight; we render homage and honor to the ancient shamanistic role of sacred intimate; and we recognize the bonding ritual within male community of celebrational sexuality.

Our ethical, social, political, and even spiritual positions are posited upon sexuality. Self-respect demands appropriate recognition within the family, the community and the workplace. We adamantly reject any and all negative influence imposing a condemnatory ethic, whether implicitly or explicitly, individually, socially or politically. We accept responsibility for broadening and deepening open discussion of male sexuality, especially as we can present and publish our own feelings and findings. Our ultimate goal is the development and maintenance of a center for holistic healing for all men who come within our sphere.

1997

Buried and not stated in the above Credo is the desire for a family or community of men greater than two. As gay men we are out of the American culture’s “box” to begin with so why not have a family of loving members, greater than two, who all support one another in all aspects of life? Our western Judeo/Christian American culture’s given assumption of one partner for life has failed miserably and therefore should not necessarily be followed by everyone else. Love and the relationships love creates are fluid entities that take on the face of the current needs and desires of the participants and do not always fall in line with the reigning culture’s mores. Love transcends all ethnic, national and cultural boundaries. It knows no restraints and usually disappears when restraints and boundaries are applied.

Given our pervasive cultural mindset and the overriding religious teachings of “one man & one woman for life” it is difficult for many to embrace a family of equals greater than two, better known or understood as “Polyamory.” Our American story includes the Mormon movement which embraced polygamy for much of that church’s history but there it was rigid in its application, male dominated and controlled and clearly abused in many situations.

Because love knows no bounds we all know that the more love we give, the more love we have to give. We all embrace polyamory daily but somehow frown on it when looking at lovers and partners. I for example am a Father and love my children, I am an ex-husband and still love my ex-wife, I am a close friend to a handful of others and love them, I am a son and love my parents and I have two lover/partners in my life and love them. Love is love. It may take different forms, like the Universal Spirit does. Polyamory is natural to all of us, but our stern Puritanical, anti-sexual, Judeo/Christian culture condemns any loving relationship among adult men and women other than the “one man & one woman” for life. For those interested in digging deeper into history, this concept was really only codified into our western thought in the 1800’s as before that all relationships, other than ones of royalty, political leadership and power succession, were fluid. To think that any one of us has some clean and unblemished lineage is foolhardy.

Human beings from the dawn of time have been moved by sexual desire and emotional needs and basically have done what they pleased. Most of the world embraces multiple loving relationships even within some strict codes of conduct. If you study Human Sexuality you will find that a country’s religious core beliefs dictate the attitude and acceptance of fluid relationships, loving and sexuality on all levels of life. Just compare Thailand with the USA and you will see a dramatic difference.

So, I and my partners celebrate strong, loving relationships and family but do not restrict our family to two, three or more if ever desired. We as gay men and women have been rejected, in many cases, by our biological families wholly or partially, rejected by our churches and family taught religious beliefs and rejected by our culture, country and government. What is so wrong in banding together in family, in mutual love and support, where all are equal yet bring their individual talents to fulfill the needs of the whole in energy, spirit, finances, creativity, physicality and love? Not everyone is suited for a communal or polyamorus family but if you feel the tug to go that direction, try it. You’ll never know unless you experience it and we only go around once in this human form.

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